I don't really think you can label kids into one category like this. Sometimes they are fun loving, sometimes sensitive. If you try to peg your child into any one thing then you may inadvertently be creating a cast or stereotype that the child then feels like they have to live up to. They begin to self-identify as 'fun-loving' or 'determined' even if they are not. Moreover, children change over time. They may be serious and sensitive at three but at nine turn into determined or fun loving. Just as adults personalities grow and evolve, so do children's.
Also, what intrigued me more was the idea of considering their 'primary need' - is there a primary need that drives behavior? I wonder. Again I think its probably an ever shifting stream of needs. Sometimes they need to be heard, sometimes they need attention, etc.
Maybe I'm wrong but I think this is too simplistic and stylized and fails to really be helpful in terms of understanding our children and being able to respond to them effectively. That said, if all the questions were combined under the 'ask yourself' section, then that might be useful.
Has anyone here read The Child Whisperer and what did you think? I would love to heat what other moms in Kuwait think.
Also, what intrigued me more was the idea of considering their 'primary need' - is there a primary need that drives behavior? I wonder. Again I think its probably an ever shifting stream of needs. Sometimes they need to be heard, sometimes they need attention, etc.
Maybe I'm wrong but I think this is too simplistic and stylized and fails to really be helpful in terms of understanding our children and being able to respond to them effectively. That said, if all the questions were combined under the 'ask yourself' section, then that might be useful.
Has anyone here read The Child Whisperer and what did you think? I would love to heat what other moms in Kuwait think.
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